Monday, November 3, 2008

(Reluctant) Daddy

Since before we found out we were expecting, Mike has had cold feet about becoming a father. He had, and still has, many concerns that a lot of men do when faced with the prospect of raising a family (and I can't say I don't have my own).

Will we have enough money? Will we have enough room? It's kind of nice just the two of us, how are things going to change? I've never really been a "kid" sort of person, what do you do with them?

Since we found out we are having a boy, I think he has relaxed a little bit. He's in "familiar territory," so to speak. We were at Target on Saturday evening adding some things to our baby registry, and as we picked out burp cloths, onesies, and bibs, I pointed to a section and said, "Sports, or marine life?" "Sports!" he replied, and pointed the scanner gun *beep* to add an item to the list. He even picked out a little pair of blue high-tops.

It may seem trivial - picking out material things for our son - but watching him make sure we had burp cloths on the list was heart warming. It felt good. I know all his fears about having a baby haven't dissolved, and some of them never will. I guess it's all part of being a parent - there will always be something to worry about, and hopefully a lot of things to celebrate, too.


Ben said...

no matter what, you're never ready. but yes, having a boy i'm sure makes it easier. hell - i'm looking forward to having a nephew that i can spoil and then send home for you guys to deal with!

Annie said...

Yep, if there's any piece of "advice" we've heard over and over again, that would be it. But yeah, we went from visions of princess castles and pink tutus to cardboard boxes and playing in the mud (which I know for a fact you've got a lot of experience with!).

Ben said...

Think of it from a father's perspective... He's probably less worried about keeping his son out of jail than he is about some dirtbag picking his little girl up for a date. Double standard, yes, but seriously... that's the reality of it. Boys are easier.

Poodle said...

Someone told Geoff having a boy means you only have to worry about 1 penis, but when you have a girl you have to worry about all the penises.

But what a cute story about Mike. That's so sweet.

Annie said...

I've never heard it put quite that way LOL!